This week I realised that I know more about the lives of social media people than I do of my own friends. What a weird realisation. Okay, the fault lies partially in me – following well over a thousand people on Instagram doesn’t make it easy to find out what my handful of real life friends are doing.
What I’m Wearing: Pink Knit, here / Brown Coat, here (similar)/ White Jeans, here / Nude Ankle Boots, here / Beret, here / Sunglasses, here (similar)
However, if you’re anything like me in the sense that you are the laziest organiser when it comes to social gatherings, you might be facing the same issue as me. I like to see my friends face to face, but also I’m usually the person who goes along with the flow. I forget to initiate coffee breaks, hang out sessions and other important gatherings when it comes to my social circle.
On top of that as I’m always on my phone because of social media, and I want to be off it whenever I can. This means that I rarely text anyone and when I do, it’s to say “I miss you!!!!!” followed by a “let’s do something pls”. Other than that, I don’t catch up with anyone over the phone or via text.
Enter Social Media & YouTube
Nowadays people put so much of their lives online. And of course with people I mean vloggers, bloggers, and other online personalities of that sort.
It’s easier to receive information than it is to share it, so what has ended up happening to me is that I essentially know more about the lives of YouTube vloggers than I know of my friends. My friends don’t really share anything, and vloggers share everything. Online that is.
Hyper Connected And Connected To No One At The Same Time
In my mind this creates a weird phenomenon – you take an interest in the lives of other people to the extent that you almost feel like you know them. You almost feel like they’re your friend. Yet at the same time, you also know that if you were to ever see that person on the street, they would not know who you are. Also, in the worst case scenario, the person could be nothing like you thought they would be (awks).
Why are we so interested in following random people online? I know that the initial interest lies in getting fashion inspiration, restaurant recommendation or whatever else it may be. If the person is an excellent writer, of course it will be entertaining to read their blogs. If they are a trend setter, of course it will be inspiring to look at their outfits. But when did we enter the era of social media influencers being essentially reality tv stars?
I mean, it is entertaining to watch vlogs at least to some extent. Otherwise we wouldn’t do it. But it amazes me how many people are essentially earning a living just by recording their lives. Why do we care so much about what they do?
Some of my friends don’t use social media at all. And ever since they quit using it, they say that their lives have been essentially the same – they haven’t missed anything important. So, coming back to my original dilemma – maybe I’m just being a bad friend by not making a huge effort in communicating with them. Maybe social media usage should be thought of as the same as watching TV – fun, but consuming, and definitely not to be overdone.
I would love to know your thoughts on this! Have you ever felt like you are hyper connected but not connected to your friends at the same time?
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