Social Media & Losing The Human Touch

This week I realised that I know more about the lives of social media people than I do of my own friends. What a weird realisation. Okay, the fault lies partially in me – following well over a thousand people on Instagram doesn’t make it easy to find out what my handful of real life friends are doing.

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However, if you’re anything like me in the sense that you are the laziest organiser when it comes to social gatherings, you might be facing the same issue as me. I like to see my friends face to face, but also I’m usually the person who goes along with the flow. I forget to initiate coffee breaks, hang out sessions and other important gatherings when it comes to my social circle.

On top of that as I’m always on my phone because of social media, and I want to be off it whenever I can. This means that I rarely text anyone and when I do, it’s to say “I miss you!!!!!” followed by a “let’s do something pls”. Other than that, I don’t catch up with anyone over the phone or via text.

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Enter Social Media & YouTube

Nowadays people put so much of their lives online. And of course with people I mean vloggers, bloggers, and other online personalities of that sort.

It’s easier to receive information than it is to share it, so what has ended up happening to me is that I essentially know more about the lives of YouTube vloggers than I know of my friends. My friends don’t really share anything, and vloggers share everything. Online that is.

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Hyper Connected And Connected To No One At The Same Time

In my mind this creates a weird phenomenon – you take an interest in the lives of other people to the extent that you almost feel like you know them. You almost feel like they’re your friend. Yet at the same time, you also know that if you were to ever see that person on the street, they would not know who you are. Also, in the worst case scenario, the person could be nothing like you thought they would be (awks).

Why are we so interested in following random people online? I know that the initial interest lies in getting fashion inspiration, restaurant recommendation or whatever else it may be. If the person is an excellent writer, of course it will be entertaining to read their blogs. If they are a trend setter, of course it will be inspiring to look at their outfits. But when did we enter the era of social media influencers being essentially reality tv stars?

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I mean, it is entertaining to watch vlogs at least to some extent. Otherwise we wouldn’t do it. But it amazes me how many people are essentially earning a living just by recording their lives. Why do we care so much about what they do?

Some of my friends don’t use social media at all. And ever since they quit using it, they say that their lives have been essentially the same – they haven’t missed anything important. So, coming back to my original dilemma – maybe I’m just being a bad friend by not making a huge effort in communicating with them. Maybe social media usage should be thought of as the same as watching TV – fun, but consuming, and definitely not to be overdone.

I would love to know your thoughts on this! Have you ever felt like you are hyper connected but not connected to your friends at the same time?

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6 Comments

  1. February 1, 2018 / 6:40 pm

    Interesting points! I’m introverted so I don’t see my friends often anyway lol but I’m also usually the one to text/call first.
    I think people are becoming more and more disconnected with their own reality. It’s a bit concerning seeing people actually admit to living vicariously through other people they don’t even know. There’s nothing wrong with admiration but I think it’s time to draw the line when you find yourself trying to constantly “escape” your own life. If your life’s that unsatisfactory, why not just do something to change it? Usually it’s the little things that make a difference: eating a GOOD breakfast instead of just coffee, getting a few more hours of sleep, reconnecting with nature. AND they don’t even cost money to do! But people would rather live the lives of strangers… idgi 🤔
    Personally if I know I’m becoming drained or just not enjoying of social media, I take a break! As a blogger, it’s easy to start looking at it like a chore, and I don’t want to do that: I want to look forward to sharing my content/art and connecting with others. I’m always intending to ENJOY my job, not resent it. That’s why we started this Creative entrepreneurship thing anyway, right?

    • Maria Julia
      February 2, 2018 / 12:33 am

      Personally I don’t watch vloggers to escape my reality, I love my life! But I bet there are people who do that as well. I guess as I’m in “the industry” myself, following more and more people just comes naturally, as you want to know what your “competitors” are doing, what’s working for them, etc. And I get what you mean with preserving your creativity, but some aspects of social media have become a chore for me unfortunately – for example I don’t enjoy using Instagram at all anymore. But, at the same time it’s my biggest platform so I don’t want to give it up.

  2. February 1, 2018 / 9:29 pm

    I can relate so much to this! I am a starting blogger myself and so obsessed with social media and influencers, but at the same time find hard to use it to communicate with my friends. I have always been the person to not write first, therefore I rely on the initial of my friends. Even my boyfriend gets mad at me because I try to reduce the usage of internet throughout the day and he’s not able to talk to me 😀

    • Maria Julia
      February 2, 2018 / 12:27 am

      Haha I can relate to that! As a blogger I see my phone as “work related” so I usually keep it on airplane mode when I don’t need it, which results me in replying late to all my texts 😬 x

  3. Carolina
    February 5, 2018 / 5:29 pm

    I’ve thought about this too, it’s so great to hear that you write about it, and from your position too! I mean you’re a pro blogger and should “depend” on as many visitors as possible, but it’s great that you can write openly about such “human” subjects 🙂 I think what you say about not overdoing is simply the answer. Just like ice cream…

    • Maria Julia
      February 6, 2018 / 11:31 am

      Thanks Carolina, and yep I agree. I know that I’m bad at keeping in touch with people, so that’s probably the first thing that I should make an effort with! x

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