Trust The Timing Of Your Life
It’s here – the end of the year. How goddam quickly 2017 has passed by! Every year I’m more and more surprised by how quickly time flies. I still feel no older than I did at the age of 20, although there’s a slight possibility of a few more wrinkles on my face now.
I wanted to write this post because -not to brag- I am kind of in a very good place at the moment. And for the past year, I have pretty much always felt like I was in a very good place. Not to say that I have found complete inner peace or anything like that, but I have definitely learned to trust the process of life more than ever. I feel as if deep inside I know that at the end of the day, everything will be okay, no matter what.
One of the highlight’s for this year was definitely my new relationship, even though it all started merely two months ago. I am still very much in the honeymoon phase – everything is wonderful, he’s perfect, I’m happy – all that jazz. But, I find it so funny how this all came to be.
I had previously been single for 3 years and I was very happy that way. I’m independent by nature and I never craved to be with a man just in order to have someone to hang out with and chat. That’s what friends are for!
During those 3 years I was of course dating – there were guys who I dated for longer and guys that passed by sooner, but I was always going out with someone. I also kept seeing my ex throughout those years because I guess I was still thinking that we might end up together, get married, have kids or something like that. However, a relationship was never the priority for me during university, because I had my friends, I had my degree, and most importantly I wanted to grow my blog and socials as quickly as possible, so that I could have the possibility of pursuing them full-time after graduation if I wanted to. I wanted to focus all my energy on myself!
Before I met my current boyfriend I was seeing someone for well over half a year. It was always “quality casual” – drinks or dinner in a nice restaurant before spending the night. It worked well for us both – he was just starting his career and I was busy essentially doing two jobs at once. Even though I wanted to be exclusive with him, at the time I was also so unsure of where I wanted to live in the world after my degree, that I didn’t want to commit to anyone before making up my mind. Having gone through it once, long distance is now a no-no for me. He was also adamant that he didn’t want anything serious.
Make Up Your Mind About What You Want
Come summer, I went away for three weeks to walk a pilgrimage on the Camino de Santiago and to pass the time, I listened to the audiobook of Steve Jobs’ biography. I was so moved by the part of the book where the narrator described the relationship between Jobs’ wife and him and the passionate relationship that they had – he was obsessed with her! It was then and there that I realised I wanted to fall in love.
After doing more soul-searching, setting things straight with the guy that I was seeing and going on holiday with my ex, I decided that neither of the guys was right and that it was time to finally move on. By this time, I knew I wanted to live in London. I didn’t know what job I was going to go for or how I was going to get one, but I knew that I would figure it out along the way. All I knew is that I had decided that I wanted to live in London, and that I was ready for a relationship.
The week before I came back to London my coursemate from uni texted me, asking if she could set me up with a colleague of hers – I said yes. We met up on the exact day that I landed in London and you guessed it, we’re together now.
The point to this rather ramble-y story is that in my head, as soon as I decided that I wanted a committed relationship, I got it. And it wasn’t with just a random person – he is a pretty perfect match and I honestly couldn’t ask for anything more!
This whole little anecdote ties back to my strong belief in the Law of Attraction. I am sure that a lot of you are already know of this philosophy, but for those of you who don’t, it’s quite simple: Decide what you want and believe that you will get it a 100%, no matter what, and you will. Your thoughts will shape your own behaviour, as well as influence the universe so that what you’re asking for will manifest in your life.
This is, of course, a very simplistic version of the philosophy and if you haven’t read up on it yet, I encourage you to do so. The main take-away of the philosophy is that you need to decide what you want and act as if you already had it, and that there was no way in hell your vision wouldn’t come true. My main problem with implementing the Law of Attraction has always been my indecisiveness – I seem to have a million ideas and a million things that I want to do, but all that goes pretty much against the whole philosophy. The best way forward is to have a crystal clear vision of what you want, and the rest will follow.
So, I guess what I’m trying to say is that the most important thing I learnt in 2017 is to really take time in figuring out what it is that you want. I am still a little unsure of where life will take me, but I have decided that I want to give full time blogging a go. I know that I have previously said that I didn’t want to go full-time, but I’ve done some soul searching and it seemed like the right thing to do. It took a long time to decide that and I am not sure if it will work out, but I want to really do my best in social media for the next couple of months, learn as much as I can and hustle as much as I can. If it won’t work out, it won’t work out, but I will do my best to power through – I have rent to pay so I have to!!
If you already know what you want, believe in yourself more and it will be much more attainable, I promise you!
Happy 2018 everyone!
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